Opening To Relationship: Re-collecting and Re-memberining Our Lost Selves.

Often, when we think of relationships we think in terms of our relationships to, or with others. But what about our relationships to ourselves? Are we in rapport with ourselves? What does that mean? Are we authentic, genuine, careful, compassionate even with those dark hidden parts within us? It's amazing the kinds of positive results you can begin to experience in relationships with others, even those you have had difficulty in relationship with, when you have taken time to reflect and resolve something that has more to do with your relationship with yourself. It's the dilemma of the elusive obvious and feels counter intuitive. In this society, we are bombarded with messages of self consideration in terms of "getting ahead" in life; a "one-up" kind of stance in relationship to others. At the same time there is the extreme opposite message of "Do unto others as you would have them to unto you" the good ole Golden Rule that has a "one-down" connotation. It seems most of us have difficulty striking and maintaining a balance between these two extremes. How much of your time and energy is spent automatically contorting yourself, holding back, stuffing expressions and impulses to accommodate others in the name of peace making or avoiding conflict? Or how often do people tell you you're not seeing hearing or considering them or taking them seriously enough? What does that mean about you? What are you doing or not doing internally that is sending mixed messages to others? Most of us are out of alignment regarding our internal experience and our verbal and nonverbal expressions regrading our needs, desires, wants, likes, dislikes, requirements, etc., in all kinds of contexts of relationship. Come explore the family and ancestral entanglements associated with what get's us out of alignment, out of rapport with ourselves that can confuse authentic, genuine and clear communication with the world outside of our internal experience. It can feel like we are being clear in our expressions and communications, verbal and nonverbal, but keep getting entangled in conflicting mixed messages, conflicts and termoil that always feels unfairly or unjustly put on us to sort out. What is that about!? We will facilitate re-solution in our Family Soul Constellations of the individual, internalized system, connected to the extended family and ancestral system that seem to be keeping us ensnared, that we participate in trying to resolve through our lives out of loving devotion for the family and ancestors. Deep stuff that is remarkably and elegantly simple to re-solve through the Family Constellation facilitation process. You will be moved and amazed and benefit from the experience in many ways associated with relationships of all the varied contexts of your life. Most of all you'll be amazed with how reconnected you will notice you are with yourself. Join us for an evening of mystical and mythical journeying into the world of Psyche, your Psyche during our Re-collecting and Re-remembering Our Lost Selves, Family Soul Constellation event. Reconnect to and reopen to relationship with yourself. About Family Soul Constellations: Family Soul Constellations work (developed by Bert Hellinger) essentially identifies where our present, personal, automatic behavioral limitations are entangled with associated, past ancestral devotional patterns. These devotional patterns are deeply embedded and keep us in the loop of: "If only I can just accomplish this for 'so and so', then everything will be okay." The trouble is the pattern is further associated with our very survival and becomes generalized in our systems as "I must accomplish this for 'so and so' in order to survive" Because this message is associated with survival, it runs currently below the radar of conscious awareness and automatically. Further, because we have successfully survived this pattern time and again, our systems default to keeping us engaging in similar situations familiar to the original crisis and survival. The "hope" is that we will finally resolve the original crisis (from the past) in the present. This effort is a loving and unworkable solution to fix ourselves and our families in the past so that we can find our place in the world in the present. The trouble is that once we come in contact with what solves or re-solves the trouble and allows us to embrace what we've hoped for to be realized, the system generalizes the anticipation of embracing that hope as: "Hope found leaves nothing to hope for" which is experienced as "fear of the unknown" So we "sabotage" ourselves to remain in the old pattern in order to "keep hope alive" Family Soul Constellations re-solves the past crisis and satisfies it while opening your system to resources that have had always been there and make those resources currently available to your internal system. It's like getting a system upgrade. So, not only is hope alive but a new hope is revitalized-that you can trust your system to default to desire, automatically that which is healthy, sustainable and more of what you would like in the present. The dream's you dreamed can be realized and you can expect to maintain them more successfully. Step into the unknown without fear; with joy and wonder and excitment! The Systemic Constellation (or Family Soul Constellation) process is a trans-generational, phenomenological, therapeutic intervention with roots in family systems therapy (Psychodrama of Jacob Moreno, Virginia Satir, Iván Böszörményi-Nagy), existential-phenomenology (Brentano, Husserl, Heidegger), and the ancestor reverence of the South African Zulus. The Systemic Constellation process is sanctioned by family therapy associations in Europe and is being integrated by thousands of licensed practitioners worldwide. The work is also beginning to become known in the United States. A Constellation can serve as an illuminating adjunct process within a conventional course of psychotherapy. While it is rooted in the psychotherapeutic tradition, the method is distinguished from conventional psychotherapy in that, 1) the client hardly speaks; 2) its primary aim is to identify and release deep patterns embedded within the family system, not to explore or process narrative, cognitive or emotional content. Procedure of Systemic Constellations Private Sessions and constellations available: If you are interested in having your constellation facilitated, please contact me. The price for having a constellation done is offered at a discounted rate for members of this group. The regular rate is $250.00. The constellation runs from an hour and a half to two hours generally, and can last up to two and a half hours maximum. The rate for members is just $200.00. Private constellation work is available in concert with Neuro-Linguistic Programming (NLP) sessions in my private office in Berkeley at 2434 Milvia near Dwight. I currently have time availability on Friday's. Private consultations and session rates are currently available on a sliding scale of $75.00-$125.00. Payment plan agreements are negotiable. Any group member interested in private sessions and in scheduling family constellations work as part of the Meetup group are offered a further discount. The last appointment I can schedule is 6:30pm on Friday evening. Please contact me to schedule a free half hour consultation and/or appointment at: 510 467 8539 or email me via this site. Thank you for your interest and I look forward to your reply. Be well! Sincerely, David